LANGIT KE TUJUH

the thing that in think with thank

Salam

Kenapa agaknyer ye skrang aku terlalu berfikir tentang mati…jalan persinggahan manusia sebelum hari kejadian benar yang sebenarnya…tapi yang paling membuatkan aku sedih bila berfikir tentang kematian mereka yang dicintai…aku akan sentiasa memaafkan dan melupakan kesakitan dulu…kerana aku yakin satu kesilapan itu bukanlah seberapa jika dibandingkan dosa berulang kali yang aku lakukan pada Pencipta…jika DIA memberi aku ruang bertaubat, jika DIA sedia membuka jalan untuk berpatah ke pangkal, sedangkan DIA tidak langsung terkesan dengan ketidak adaan aku sekalipun…tapi sungguhlah DIA MAHA PENYAYANG…inikan pula aku yang tiada langsung layak menghukum kesalahan manusia lain .

menjadi seorang makhluk yang punya hati dan ada rasa adalah satu anugerah….tapi menggunakan hati dan mengalihkan rasa itu pada arah yang tidak betul adalah satu penyelewengan…apa jadi bila hati jadi gelap, apa jadik bila hati sakit, apa jadik bila hati busuk, apa jadik bila hati hitam legam…apa lagi bila hati membarah parah dan hilang fungsi…setelah itu mati dalam ragam dendam…Na’uzubillah mohon dijauhkan..

memaafkan tak sama seperti memintanya. Kerana yang memaafkan adalah dari sebuah hati yang terluka..manakala yang mengemisnya datang dari hati yang membengkak dengan kekesalan…bukankah keduanya seimbang…tidak adil untuk terus berdendam…bila mana manusia itu sememangnya acapkali mencipta kesilapan…manusia itu akan berubah. Tetap akan berubah walaupun sedikit…tapi manusia sentiasa melihat kesilapan dan masa lampau tanpa mahu memberikan ruang untuk insan lain berjuang dan melakukan pertukaran…segala apa yang terjadi…moga aku benar-benar redha bila aku mengucapkan “aku memaafkanmu kerana ALLAH”

you have choice

We all have a choice
To live a lie
Or be ourselves
To laugh and cry
Or to follow someone else

To look up and smile
Or bow down and frown
To walk the whole mile
Or take off our crown

We have a choice
To shout out loud
Or chant a whisper
To fly through the clouds
Or to be blown like paper

To conquer our fear
Or hide in the shadow
To the wise words hear
Or be thrown out the window

We all have a choice
To climb our highest mountain
Or fall into our deepest hole
To drink from life's fountain
Or live life like a troubled soul

To learn love in the heart
Or grasp to hate with regret
To wake up and start
Or sleep until sunset

We all have a choice
To speak truly with ourselves
Or go against what seems

We all have a choice
To fulfill our greatest dreams
--- Copyright © 2008 Allen Steble

Are Women and Men Different in Handling Stress?

By  Razan Abdul Freelance Writer - Egypt

The husband got the news that he was being laid off from work today. He went home and went to his room. His wife went after him, trying to get him to talk, but when he would not talk she picked up the phone and called a close friend to share the problem with her.

Does that sound familiar? Is that how your husband handles stress? Your answer might be "Everybody knows women always want to talk; they are completely different from men."

Well, unlike what is being advocated — that we males and females are entirely different in almost all aspects of life —, the fact is that we are very similar in most cases, psychologically speaking, but with only a few differences. However, acknowledging this does not automatically lead us to conclude that these differences are unchangeable, inevitable, or even have a biological base. Also, we need to know that these differences refer to the average person and not necessarily all men and women.

Personality Differences

There is one dimension where men and women consistently differ: Women tend to be more nurturing and men more assertive. According to the studies where states of happiness, sadness, and fear were observed, the experience of these emotions was the same. The difference was in the expression; women tend to be more expressive. The factor that was considered to contribute to this observation was "cultural display rules" of emotions and not different levels of emotions.

In many cultures, even little boys and girls are taught that a boy shouldn't cry and that he should control his emotions. This is affirmed by the male role model in the home, as the boy child follows the same rules as his male role model. Therefore, boys tend to adopt these emotional control techniques from a young age. However, the study mentioned that women are basically more emotionally aware and sensitive than men. Women can express themselves more freely, and recall and think about emotional experiences.


Behavioral Background

Personally, when I was first introduced to the notion of the two sexes being from different planets (the Mars and Venus thing), I was amazed and agreed to a great extent. Luckily, I was only a few years into my marriage back then! I remember a woman who was about my mom's age. She said, "I have learned this the hard way, through twenty years of marriage!" It is beneficial to admit some differences and to know that there are exceptions to the rule, as we are all humans and pretty much the same when it comes to feelings.

It is known that the nervous and endocrine systems respond to stress in the same way in both genders. The difference manifests in behavioral reactions. Men act according to "fight or flight" when they are under stress and they want to be left alone, as it may lead to the cause of conflict with other family members. Women tend to be more nurturing when under stress, especially with their children and family. They seek support from other women. The expression used to describe this reaction is "tend and befriend."

One physiological explanation is the hormone oxytocin, which is associated with maternal behavior. The level of oxytocin is higher in females than in males. It is said that this hormone helps one to recover quickly from the arousal state associated with stress, although recent research may prove otherwise.


Does This Relate to Marital Life?

Of course it does; it did with my life!

Spouses must understand even just a little about the other's reaction to different situations and life events, in order to be able to comprehend the other's actions and to handle them with the spirit of understanding instead of being on the defense.

Women, remember that time when your husband said something that made you upset and later you found out that he didn't mean it that way? Men, remember the time when you did something that you thought was really funny and your wife did not appreciate it one bit? Both sides need to figure out what their spouse really appreciates instead of spending effort in acts that are not recognized by the other or even noticed!                            

Need more explanation? A little homework might shed some light. For the men: Try to find out what was more appreciated last week: Was it the chocolate bar that you got your wife or your returning home from work early to watch your son's soccer game? For the women: What did your husband appreciate more: Your putting the children to bed early for a romantic evening, or the time he made a slip of the tongue that he thought would make you mad but you let it pass by?

Stand in your spouse's shoes and try to comprehend the motivation behind an act or statement. Try to see through their eyes, feel their feelings, and think how they think. In other words, explain the act through their perspective, not yours. It does not matter how you feel when someone gives you a rose (well it does); regardless, it might not mean a lot to you, but it might make a whole lot of difference to your spouse.

So next time you are hurt by a word or an act from your spouse, think why they said or did that. When you are the one who is doing the hurting, ask yourself, did you hurt your spouse unintentionally? After a few years into your marriage, you will be able to figure out and comprehend your spouse's actions if you spend time and effort in doing so. So stop being defensive. Be the one who shows understanding to your spouse, and you will eventually get the same treatment, in sha' Allah.


Razan Abdul Rahman  is a mother of four. She is studying child psychology as a preliminary to clinical psychology at Indiana University, USA.

ANTARA IQ, EQ, SQ DAN ESQ

ANTARA IQ, EQ, SQ DAN ESQ

Mengikut kajian yang saya sendiri buat, masyarakat Malaysia umumnya telah menyedari akan kepentingan motivasi di dalam diri mereka. Ini adalah kerana mereka merasakan diri mereka kosong dan tidak bermakna. Mengapa saya berkata demikian? Sedangkan kita tahu ramai rakyat Malaysia telah mengecapi kekayaan dan kesenangan. "Mengapa mereka perlu merasa kosong, sedangkan mereka boleh dapatkan apa saja?" Ini adalah persoalan-persoalan yang mungkin akan terkeluar dari mulut anda semua.

Sebenarnya makin kaya seseorang itu, makin mereka merasakan diri mereka kosong dan tidak bermakna. Hubungan mereka dengan keluarga makin renggang, hubungan suami isteri semakin longgar dan yang paling penting hubungan dengan Pencipta kita iaitu Allah s.w.t semakin jauh. Itulah yang dirasai oleh kebanyakkan daripada kita sekarang ini. Kita sedar akan bencana dan malapetaka yang berlaku disekeliling kita, dan kita tahu dunia semakin hari semakin menuju ke zaman kemusnahan (Kiamat). Dan kita sedar yang kita perlu bertaubat, tetapi berapa ramaikah diantara kita yang melalukannya (Taubat). Ini saya peringatkan diri saya juga.

Tidak mustahillah ramai diantara kita boleh merasakan diri mereka sekarang ini kosong dan tidak bermakna. Oleh kerana demikian, motivasi diri dan motivasi sahsiah diri diperlukan oleh semua orang. Sebab itu banyak syarikat-syarikat kecil mahupun besar berlumba-lumba untuk menghantar para pekerjanya ke kursus-kursus motivasi, bina insan, bina pasukan dan sebagainya. Ini adalah bertujuan untuk mengisi kekosongan hati para pekerja mereka.

Lebih daripada 10 tahun dahulu kita telah disogok dengan perlunya IQ (Kecerdasan Minda). Kemudian kita juga diperkenalkan dengan EQ (Kecerdasan Emosi). Ini adalah kerana apabila kita disogok dengan perlunya IQ, masyarakat telah lupa bahawasanya pentingnya mengurus emosi. Sehinggakan golongan interlektual dan golongan mempunyai tahap IQ yang tinggi tidak lagi mementingan dan menjaga emosi orang di 0sekitarnya. Oleh sebab itu, wujudnya EQ. Tetapi kita masih lagi merasakan diri kita tidak lengkap walaupun diri kita telah diperlengkapi dengan IQ (Kecerdasan Minda) dan EQ (Kecerdasan Emosi). Ramai yang mengatakan mereka masih lagi memerlukan sesuatu untuk diri mereka.

Sebagai pelengkap hidup ini, satu lagi elemen telah ditambah untuk memastikan hidup kita tidak lagi kosong. Rupanya selama ini, kita hanya mengejar duniawi tanpa menyedari bahawa pentingnya kita mengejar akhirat. Kita telah disogokkan dengan IQ (Kecerdasan Minda) dan EQ (Kecerdasan Emosi), tetapi itu semua bertunjalkan duniawi. Walhal kita tahu akan wujudnya alam akhirat. Oleh itu, sebagai pelengkap dan pengimbang antara dunia dan akhirat kita telah diperkenalkan dengan SQ (Kecerdasan Spritual). SQ ialah satu elemen yang membawa kita dekat dengan pencipta kita dan seterusnya memberi kita jaminan untuk kita bahagia di akhirat. SQ telah dianggap elemen yang menyelamatkan dan mengisi kekosongan yang selama ini dikecapi oleh masyarakat kita hari ini.

Hari ini IQ, EQ dan SQ telah bergabung dan menjadi ESQ. Iaitu gabungan yang terbaik buat masa ini akan boleh melahirkan mukmin yang sejati. Sebenarnya tanpa disedari perkara ini telah dijumpai oleh pemikir-pemikir barat dan mereka telah memperkenalkan perkara ini sudah lama, tetapi kita umat Islam sahaja yang masih mencari-cari perkara ini. Walaupun dalam Al-Quran  dan Hadis telah dinyatakan, tetapi kita seolah-olah tidak sedar akan kewujudannya.       

OLEH : EN. MOHD AZIMIN CHE WIL
http://cacconsultant.tripod.com/motivasi.html

25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety

25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety

1. Ask Him. He Listens: DU`A

Turn each anxiety, each fear and each concern into a Dua (supplication). Look at it as another reason to submit to God and be in Sajdah (prostration), during which you are closest to Allah. God listens and already knows what is in your heart, but He wants you to ask Him for what you want.

The Prophet said: Allah is angry with those who do not ask Him for anything
(Tirmidhi).

The Prophet once said that in prayer, he would find rest and relief (Nasai). He would also regularly ask for God's forgiveness and remain in prostration during prayer praising God (Tasbeeh) and asking for His forgiveness (Bukhari).

Allah wants you to be specific. The Prophet advised us to ask Allah for exactly what we want instead of making vague Duas. Dua is the essence of worship (the Prophet as quoted in Tirmidhi).

"Call on your Lord with humility and in private: for Allah loveth not those who trespass beyond bounds. Do not make mischief on the earth, after it hath been set in order, but call on Him with fear. And longing (in your hearts): for the mercy of Allah is (always) near to those who do good" (Quran 7:55-56).

2. Tie your Camel: DO YOUR PART

One day Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, noticed a Bedouin leaving his camel without tying it. He asked the Bedouin, "Why don't you tie down your camel?" The Bedouin answered, "I put my trust in Allah." The Prophet then said, "Tie your camel first, then put your trust in Allah" (Tirmidhi).

Muslims must never become fatalistic. Although we know only Allah is in control and that He has decreed all things, we are each responsible for making the right choices and doing the right thing in all situations of our lives. We must take action (link to planning articles on SV). We must work to alleviate the hardships we, our families and our communities face.

Ask yourself the following questions if you are worried about the state of the world: are you part of the peace movement? Is your Masjid part of the peace movement? Are you part of an interfaith group with an agenda of peace and justice? Are you working with a group fighting discrimination? If your answer is no, it is time that you sat down to plan your share of time and money in finding solutions to the problems you face.

"Verily Allah does not change men's condition unless they change their inner selves" (Quran 13: 11).

Turn each worry into a Du`a and each Du`a into an action plan. That will show your commitment to your request and will focus your energy in the right direction.

3. Remember that human responsibility is limited

While we need to carry out our duty to the best of our abilities, always remember that you don't control the outcome of events. Even the Prophets did not control the outcome of their efforts. Some were successful, others were not. Once you have done your duty, leave the results to Allah. Regardless of the results of your efforts, you will be rewarded for the part you have played.

However, never underestimate your abilities. Understand the concept of Barakah (blessings from Allah) and remember that Allah can and Insha Allah will expand them if you are sincerely exerting your energies for the right path.

4. Leave the world behind you FIVE TIMES A DAY

Use the five daily prayers as a means to become more Hereafter-oriented and less attached to this temporary world. Start distancing yourself as soon as you hear Adhan, the call to prayer. When you perform Wudu, keep repeating Shahada, the declaration of faith, as water drops slip down your face, hands, arms, and hair. When you stand ready to pray, mentally prepare yourself to leave this world and all of its worries and stresses behind you.

Of course, Shaytan will try to distract you during prayer. But whenever this happens, go back and remember Allah. The more you return, the more Allah will reward you for it. Also, make sure your Sajdas (prostrations) are talking Sajdas, in which you are really connecting to God and seeking His Mercy, praising Him, and asking His forgiveness. (link to Sajda article...ramadan page)

5. Seek help through SABR (patience)

Seek help through Sabr and Salat (Quran 2:45).

This instruction from Allah provides us with two critical tools that can ease our worries and pain. Patience and prayer are two oft-neglected stressbusters. Sabr is often translated as patience but it is not just that. It includes self-control, perseverance, endurance, and a focused struggle to achieve one's goal. Unlike patience, which implies resignation, the concept of Sabr includes a duty to remain steadfast to achieve your goals despite all odds.

Being patient gives us control in situations where we feel we have little or no control. 'We cannot control what happens to us but we can control our reaction to our circumstances' is the mantra of many modern-day self-help books. Patience helps us keep our mind and attitude towards our difficulties in check.

6. Excuse Me! You are Not Running the World, HE is.

It is important to remind ourselves that we don't control all the variables in the world. God does. He is the Wise, the All-Knowing. Sometimes our limited human faculties are not able to comprehend His wisdom behind what happens to us and to others, but knowing that He is in control and that as human beings we submit to His Will, enriches our humanity and enhances our obedience (Uboodiah in Arabic) towards him. Read the story of the encounter of Moses with the mysteries behind God's decision (Quran: 18:60-82). Familiarize yourself with God's 99 Names, which are also known as His Attributes. It is a powerful way of knowing Him.

"God-there is no deity save Him, the Ever-Living, the Self-Subsistent Fount of All being. Neither slumber overtakes Him, nor sleep. His is all that is in the heavens and all that is on earth. Who is there that could intercede with Him, unless it be by His leave? He knows all that lies open before men and all that is hidden from them, whereas they cannot attain to aught of His knowledge save that which He wills them to attain. His eternal power overspreads the heavens and the earth, and their upholding wearies Him not. And He alone is truly exalted, tremendous." (Quran 2:255).

The Prophet recommended reading this verse, known as Ayat al kursi, after each prayer, Allah's peace and blessings be upon him. Once Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, approached the Prophet during a difficult time and he found the Prophet in Sajda, where he kept repeating "Ya Hayy Ya Qayyum", words which are part of this verse.

7. Birds Don't Carry their Food

Allah is al Razzaq (the Provider).

"How many are the creatures that carry not their own sustenance? It is Allah Who feeds them and you, for He hears and knows all things (Quran 29:60)."

By reminding yourself that He is the Provider, you will remember that getting a job or providing for your family in these economically and politically challenging times, when Muslims are often the last to be hired and the first to be fired, is in God's Hands, not yours. As Allah says in the Quran:

"And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is (Allah) for him. For Allah will surely accomplish His purpose. Verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion (Quran 65:3).

8. God controls Life and Death

If you fear for your physical safety and security, remember that only Allah gives life and takes it back and, that He has appointed the time for it. No one can harm you except if Allah wills. As He says in the Quran:

"Wherever you are, death will find you out, even if you are in towers built up strong and high!" (Quran 4:78).

9. Remember that life is short

It's easy to get caught up in our own stress and anxiety. However, if we remember that our life is short and temporary, and that the everlasting life is in the Hereafter, this will put our worries in perspective.

This belief in the transitory nature of the life of this world reminds us that whatever difficulties, trials, anxieties, and grief we suffer in this world are, Insha Allah, something we will only experience for a short period of time. And more importantly, if we handle these tests with patience, Allah will reward us for it.

10. Do Zikr, Allah, Allah!

"... without doubt in the remembrance (Zikr) of Allah do hearts find tranquility"
(Quran 13:28).

If you commute, use your time in Zikr. Pick any Tasbeeh and do that instead of listening to the radio or reading the newspaper. Maybe you can divide it up between Zikr and planning. Personally, I recite the Tasbeeh of "Subhana Allahe wa be hamdihi, subhan Allahil Azeem" 100 times as I drive. The Prophet taught us these two short phrases which are easy to say but will weigh heavy on our scale of good deeds in the Hereafter.

When your heart feels heavy with stress or grief, remember Allah and surround yourself with His Zikr. Zikr refers to all forms of the remembrance of Allah, including Salat, Tasbeeh, Tahmeed, Tahleel, making supplication (Dua), and reading Quran.

"And your Lord says: 'Call on Me; I will answer your (prayer)..." (Quran 40:60)

By remembering Allah in the way He has taught us to, we are more likely to gain acceptance of our prayers and His Mercy in times of difficulty. We are communicating with the only One Who not only Hears and Knows all, but Who can change our situation and give us the patience to deal with our difficulties.

"Remember Me, and I shall remember you; be grateful to Me, and deny Me not"
(Quran 2:152).

11. Relying on Allah: Tawakkul

When you awaken in the morning, thank Allah for giving you life after that short death called sleep. When you step out of your home, say 'in Your Name Allah, I put my trust in Allah, and there is no power or force except with Allah' (Bismillahi Tawakal to al Allah wa la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah). At night, remember Allah, with His praises on your lips.

Once you have established a plan you intend to follow through on to deal with a specific issue or problem in your life, put your trust in the most Wise and the All-Knowing.

"When you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah" (Quran 3: 159).

Rely on Allah by constantly remembering Him throughout your day. When you
lay down to sleep, remember that sleep is death. That is why one of the recommended supplications before going to sleep is "with Your (Allah's) Name I die and become alive".

12. Connect with other human beings

You are not alone. Muslims are not alone. We are not suffering in silence. There are millions of good people who are not Muslim with beautiful hearts and minds. These are people who have supported us, individually and collectively, post-9/11, by checking up on us and making sure we are safe. These are individuals and organizations who have spoken up in defense of Muslims as we endured harassment and discrimination.

We must think of them, talk to them, connect with them, and pray for them. Through our connections, we will break the chain of isolation that leads to depression and anxiety.

13. Compare your dining table with that of those who don't have as much as you do

The Prophet said: Whenever you see someone better than you in wealth, face or figure, you should look at someone who is inferior to you in these respects (so that you may thank Allah for His blessings) (Bukhari, Muslim).

Next time you sit down to eat, eye the table carefully. Check out the selection of food, the quality, the taste, the quantity, and then think of the millions of others who don't have even half as much. The Prophet's Hadith reminds us of this so that we can appreciate and thank God for all that we have.

Also remember that the Prophet only encouraged us to compare ourselves to others in two respects: in our Islamic knowledge and level of belief in God (Deen). In these two areas, we should compare ourselves with those who have more than what we do.

14. Say it Loud: Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar: Takbirat & Adhan

Find a corner of a lake, go out in the wilderness, or even stand on your lawn at your home and call the Adhan with your heart. While driving, instead of listening to the same news over and over again, say Allahu Akbar as loudly as you can or as softly as you want, based on your mood. Year ago, I remember calling Adhan on a Lake Michigan shore in Chicago after sunset as the water gushed against my knees. I was calling it for myself. There was no one else accept the waves after waves of water with their symphony. It was relaxing and meaningful. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.

15. Pray in congregation (Jamat)

Pray with other people instead of alone. If you can't pray all five prayers in congregation, at least find one or two prayers you can pray with others. If you are away, establish Jamat in your own family. During the Prophet's time, even though the Muslims endured great persecution, including physical beatings, they would sometimes meet on the side of a mountain or valley and tried to pray together. This is a great morale booster.

16. How is your Imam's Dua?

Does the Imam at your local mosque make Dua silently or out loud? Ask him to supplicate with the whole congregation. Suggest Duas for him to make. Ask him to make Dua for other people.

17. Work for the Unity of Muslims

Bringing Muslims together will not only help the Muslims, but it will also encourage you to focus your energies on something constructive versus zeroing in on and consistently fretting about difficulties you are going through.

Invite Muslims from other ethnic groups to your functions. Visit Masjids other than yours in your city. When you meet a Muslim leader, after thanking him for his efforts, ask him what he is doing for Muslim unity. Ask Imams to make Dua for this. These are just small ways you can help yourself and the Muslim community.

18. Sleep the way the Prophet slept

End your day on a positive note. Make Wudu, then think of your day. Thank Allah for all the good things you accomplished, like Zikr and Salat. Ask yourself what you did today to bring humanity together and what you did to help Muslims become servants of humanity. For everything positive, say Alhamdu lillah (Praise be to Allah). For everything negative say Astaghfirullah wa atoobo ilayk (I seek Allah's forgiveness and I turn to You [Allah]). Recite the last two chapters of the Quran, thinking and praying as you turn on your right side with your hand below your right cheek, the way the Prophet used to sleep. Then close your day with the name of Allah on your tongue. Insha Allah, you will have a good, restful night.

19. Begin the Day on a Positive Note

Get up early. Get up thanking God that He has given you another day. Alhamdu lillahil lazi ahyana bada ma amatana, wa ilaihin Nushoor (Praise be to Allah Who gave us life after death and unto Him will be the return). Invest in an audio tape driven alarm clock so you can get up to the melody of the Quran. Or Let Dawud Wharnsby's joyful notes put you in a good mood. Sing along if you like. Develop your to do list for the day if you didn't do it the night before. Begin with the name of Allah, with Whose name nothing in the heavens or the earth can hurt you. He is the Highest and the Greatest.

(Bismillahillazi la yazurru maa ismihi shaiun fil arze wa la fis samae, wahuwal Alee ul Azeem).The Prophet used to say this after every Fajr and Maghrib prayers.

20. Avoid Media Overexposure: Switch from News to Books

Don't spend too much time checking out the news on the radio, television or internet. Spend more time reading good books and journals. When you listen to the persistent barrage of bad news, especially relating to Muslims nowadays, you feel not only depressed, but powerless. Cut down media time to reduce your stress and anxiety. It's important to know what's going on but not to an extent that it ruins your day or your mood. (similarly, when you are in a sad mood, refrain from wallowing and listening to sad songs)

21. Pray for Others to Heal Yourself.

The Prophet was always concerned about other people, Muslims and non-Muslims, and would regularly pray for them. Praying for others connects you with them and helps you understand their suffering. This in itself has a healing component to it. The Prophet has said that praying for someone who is not present increases love.

22. Make the Quran your Partner

Reading and listening to the Quran will help refresh our hearts and our minds. Recite it out loud or in a low voice. Listen to it in the car. When you are praying Nafl or extra prayers, pick it up and use it to recite portions of the Quran you are not as familiar with. Connecting to the Quran means connecting to God. Let it be a means to heal your heart of stress and worries. Invest in different recordings of the Quran and their translations.

"O humanity! There has come to you a direction from your Lord and a cure for all [the ills] in men's hearts - and for those who believe, a Guidance and a Mercy" (Quran 10:57).

23. Be thankful to Allah

"If you are grateful, I will give you more" (Quran 14:7).

Counting our blessings helps us not only be grateful for what we have, but it also reminds us that we are so much better off than millions of others, whether that is in terms of our health, family, financial situation, or other aspects of our life. And being grateful for all we have helps us maintain a positive attitude in the face of worries and challenges we are facing almost daily.

24. Ideals: ONE STEP AT A TIME

Ideals are wonderful things to pursue. But do that gradually. Think, prioritize, plan, and move forward. One step at a time.

25. EFFORTS not Results Count in the Eyes of Allah

Our success depends on our sincere efforts to the best of our abilities. It is the mercy of Allah that He does not demand results, Alhamdu lillah. He is happy if He finds us making our best sincere effort. Thank you Allah!

http://www.muslimdiary.com/readarticle.php?article_id=323

INILAH DAKWAH KITA

INILAH DAKWAH KITA
oleh Ustazah Zubaidah (Penasihat Usrah IPTA)

Saya telah membaca buku Beberapa Peringatan untuk Para Da'i. Bahan ini boleh dijadikan sumber dalam program usrah. Bahan ini berguna kepada pendakwah dan juga kepada orang yang didakwahkan (mad'u). Saya hanya memetik isi-isi penting daripada buku itu untuk panduan kepada naqib atau naqibah memilih persoalan-persoalan penting yang harus difokuskan semasa perbincangan dalam usrah nanti.

Fasal Pertama: Inilah Dakwah Kita
Tujuan/Matlamat Dakwah

      Dakwah kita adalah untuk seluruh manusia umumnya dan umat Islam secara khusus, menyeru mereka supaya memberikan sepenuh pengabdian kepada Allah Yang Maha Esa, tidak menyekutukan-Nya dengan sesuatu dan tidak menjadikan sesembahan lain sebagai Tuhan dan Rabb.

      Dakwah kita adalah untuk manusia yang mempunyai persediaan untuk menerima Islam sebagai Din dan pegangan hidup, mengikhlaskan keyakinan sebulatnya kepada Allah membersihkan jiwanya daripada segala penyakit nifak dalam setiap amalan, supaya tidak bertentangan dengan Islam.

      Dakwah kita adalah untuk alam sejagat, menyeru mereka membangkitkan suatu revolusi dan perubahan menyeluruh terhadap sistem pemerintahan kini kerana pemerintahan hari ini dikuasai taghut dan perosak-perosak yang hidup bermaharajalela di permukaan bumi dengan berbagai kemusnahan. Kekuasaan daripada kepimpinan ideologi yang zalim ini mesti dihentikan, diserahkan kepada orang-orang yang beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat, beriman dengan agama yang hak (benar) tiada keinginan kepada kemegahan, kemaharajalelaan dan kemusnahan di muka bumi.

Tugas Naqib atau Naqibah ialah menghuraikan persoalan-persoalan di bawah:

      Orang Islam terlebih dahulu memerlukan penerangan, penjelasan dan perincian, apa lagi orang yang bukan Muslim.

      Manusia tidak mengimani hak kehakiman dan kekuasaan Allah dalam semua urusan kehidupan di muka bumi.

      Hakikat pengabdian ialah menerima semua bahagian kehidupan secara bersepadu: pertama, semua perkara yang berhubung dengan soal-soal agama;dan kedua, perkara-perkara yang berhubung dengan persoalan-persoalan keduniaan dengan kepelbagaian masalahnya. Allah memerintahkan hamba-hamba-Nya untuk masuk ke dalam agama Allah secara menyeluruh, merangkumi seluruh aspek kehidupan manusia. "Wahai orang yang beriman masuklah kamu ke dalam Islam secara menyeluruhnya...."

      Apa maksud Din? Maksudnya ialah cara hidup. Din Islam ialah cara hidup Islam. Cara hidup meliputi semua aspek kehidupan manusia. Misalnya ekonomi, politik, sosial, antarabangsa, ilmu pengetahuan, akhlak, bahasa dan sebagainya. Ad-Din itu satu, tetap dan tidak berubah; al-Qur'an tetap terpelihara dan di dalamnyalah terkandung ajaran yang meliputi semua aspek itu.

      Erti pengabdian yang dilaung-laungkan oleh rasul-rasul "Mengaku dan meyakini bahawa tiada Tuhan selain Allah, Allah Maha Esa" ialah taat dan patuh dengan mengerjakan suruhan-Nya dan meninggalkan larangan-Nya. Dan itulah makna takwa.

      Siapakah yang nifak? Seseorang yang berpura-pura mengimani sesuatu sistem yang tertentu, menunjukkan penggabungan, penyerahan dan kepatuhan kepada-Nya tetapi pada waktu yang lain dapat hidup dengan penuh rasa aman dan rela hati di bawah naungan satu sistem lain yang bercanggah dengan sistem yang awal tadi.

      Siapa taghut? Menurut Kamus Al Marbawi, tiap-tiap orang yang penganiaya (zalim), tiap-tiap kepala atau ibu penyesat, syaitan yang memalingkan dari jalan yang baik, tiap-tiap yang disembah selain Allah.

      Kemusnahan di bumi ... sila kaitkan kemusnahan alam (di laut, di udara dan di darat) dengan Pendidikan Alam Sekitar, Kajian Tempatan atau Sains. Kemusnahan ini baik kemusnahan dalam sistem Islam dan juga kemusnahan alam.

http://www.muslimdiary.com/readarticle.php?article_id=644

jangan busuk hati tau...huhu

Waktu duk menganggur macam nih rasa lembab sangat otak…emmm….rindu nak belajar balik…rindu jg nak buat group assgmen…rindu nak ikut g usrah…rindu nak join program….rindu kat kak chu, kak tya, kak hamas…3 insan yang selalu mengingatkan diri ni…kakak2 yang benar2 memahami..aku bersyukur bertemu kalian…tima kaseh ek …satu benda yang aku tak pernah rindu ialah dewan peperiksaan…tak mau amek exam dah…

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seronok kalo belajar tapi takyah exam..huhu…satu impian yang takkan pernah jadik kenyataan…

Macam tu jugaklah hidup…tak mungkin dalam hidup aku hanya perlu belajar…pasti ada satu masa aku perlu lalui satu ujian…makin banyak ujian, makin aku tau kemampuan diri…mybe at da beginning, markah low tapi lama2 bila dah kuat untuk menempuhi setiap ujian, semuanya akan jadik biasa la,,,,

Aku syukur sangat2…hidup aku tak pernah diuji dengan perkara yang terlalu berat…tapi aku sedar, kesenangan jugak merupakan satu ujian..emmm..kebahagiaan jugak satu ujian…ujian bila aku dalam kealpaan…fuh!!! Perkara yang paling aku takut dalam hidup ialah jika aku diuji ALLAH tanpa aku sedari!…segala-galanya adalah ujian…moga aku selalu sedar diri…selalu bersyukur dan sentiasa berpijak di bumi nyata…jangan lupa diri…jangan bangga diri…jangan  riak…jangan hipokrit…jangan pandang rendah terhadap orang lain…jangan busuk    hati…jangan bersangka buruk…jangan hanya melihat keburukan orang…jangan sinis terhadap kekurangan orang lain…jangan..jangan..jangan…ingatkan aku bila aku lupa…

Biar ada yang bersangka buruk…biar ada yang salah anggap…biar ada yang memandang remeh…biar hina di mata manusia….biar..biar…biar…aku tak layak untuk menghukum mereka..Allah itu

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kebih layak untuk mengadili hamba-Nya…

Aku tak risau jika ada yang membenci kerana kekurangan yang ada…tapi yang paling aku risau adalah apabila ada yang membenci dan iri hati atas kelebihan yang ada….ingatlah, jangan iri hati, sentiasa bersangka baik, Insya Allah kita akan memiliki sesuatu yang takkan pernah kita jangka jika kita bersangka baik dengan DIA dengan cara selalu beranggapan bersih terhadap makhluk-Nya…

INGATLAH WAHAI DIRIKU ASMA BINTI DAT

BAHAGIA DAN DERITA

BAHAGIA DAN DERITA

Bahagia ada dua wajah...
Bahagia dalam redha Allah
Bahagia di luar redha Allah.

Derita ada dua wajah...
Derita dalam redha Allah
Derita di luar redha Allah.

Jangan cari bahagia
Jangan tolak derita
Carilah redha Allah.

Jika telah mendapat redha Allah
Bahagia derita tidak bermakna
Bahagia derita sama saja.

TAUBAT SEORANG HAMBA

Taubat Seorang Hamba - Irsyadee feat. Hafiz (ex-UNIC)

Hati hiba mengenangkan
Dosa-dosa yang ku lakukan
Oh Tuhan Maha Kuasa
Terima taubat hamba berdosa

Chorus:
Ku akui kelemahan diri
Ku insafi kekurangan ini
Ku kesali kejahilan ini
Terimalah, terimalah, terimalah
Taubatku ini

Telah aku merasakan
Derita jiwa dan perasaan
Kerana hilang dari jalan
Menuju redha-Mu ya Tuhan
Aaa… Ya Allah
Aaa… Ya Allah

Di hamparan ini ku menerima
Moga taubatku diterima

Lagu: Hafiz Hamidun
Lirik: Hafiz Hamidun

HATI

Hati merupakan bahagian manusia yang termulia di antara yang lain. Kerana kemampuan untuk mengenali Allah hanya mampu dicapai oleh segumpal daging di dalam jasad manusia bernama hati (Qalb). Suatu kekuatan yang tidak mampu dicapai oleh aqal semata-mata. Dengan aqal semata-mata, manusia tidak akan dapat menerima kewujudan sesuatu yang tidak dapat dikesan oleh deria-deria kemanusiaan yang bertindakbalas dan ‘mengajar’nya secara terbatas, lemah sehingga tidak dapat menjangkau apa-apa yang jauh dari capaiannya yang kerdil.

Hanya hati itu jugalah yang mampu bertindakbalas secara reaktif dan cergas terhadap ‘perkenalan’nya terhadap kuasa yang di luar batasan capaiannya itu. Ia bekerja ke arah itu, dan berusaha untuk lebih mendalami perasaan tersebut. Hati sahajalah yang mampu untuk mendekati dan mendalami hakikat besar ini, ia akan membongkar apa-apa lagi rahsia tersembunyi di sisiNya, supaya setiap degupannya akan menjadikan peribadi itu lebih dekat kepadaNya.

Sedangkan kaki, tangan, mulut, jari-jemari, lutut, siku, sendi-sendi dan semua anggota hanyalah hamba kepada hati, dan berkhidmat kepadanya, seperti seorang raja lagaknya yang memperkhadamkan hamba-hamba abdinya untuk manfaat dirinya.

Kerana itulah, mana-mana diri sedar yang benar-benar mengenali peranan dan kemampuan hatinya, ia akan benar-benar mengenal Tuhannya. Akan tetapi alangkah pedihnya kerana kebanyakan manusia sebenarnya jahil akan hatinya dan jiwanya, lalu bagaimana pula mengenal Tuhannya. Sedangkan satu hakikat juga bahawa sebenarnya Allahlah yang membatasi seseorang hamba dari hati dan jiwanya sendiri, dan dengan keupayaannya yang Maha Agung dan Maha Halus, Dia mampu menghalang sesiapa pun dari mengenali dan mendekatiNya.

Sesungguhnya Allah tidak akan merubah sesiapa pun dari hamba-hambaNya selagi mana dia tidak merubah dirinya sendiri. Dan alangkah hebatnya Allah yang Maha Agung, segala-galanya berada di hujung ‘jari’nya, dia menentukan apa sahaja yang dikehendaki dengan tersangat mudah dan enteng.

Oleh kerana itulah, mempelajari hati dan sifat-sifatnya merupakan sebahagian daripada asas dalam agama, mendalaminya serta tabiat-tabiatnya merupakan asas permulaan perjalanan orang-orang berakhlaq terhadap diri dan Tuhannya.

Hakikat hati itu, asas fitrahnya sangat terbuka untuk menerima petunjuk yang benar. Ia condong menghindari apa-apa syahwat dan hawa nafsu yang diletakkan ke dalamnya. Pertembungan di antara tentera-tentera malaikat dan tentera-tentera syaitan sentiasa berterusan tiada henti, semata-mata demi menguasai segumpal daging bernama hati. Terbukanya hati ini kepada mana-mana dari dua ini, yang menyebabkan sehingga ia bertapak, seterusnya bermastautin di dalamnya, dan lawannya tidak akan dapat melintasi ke dalam hati ini melainkan secara curi-curi. ((Dari kejahatan was-was yang ditiupkan al-Khannas)) [Surah An-Nas : 4] Kerana itulah, apabila ia sedang mengingati Allah, Khannas akan membuatkan ia was-was dan ragu-ragu. Apabila ia sedang lalai pula, terdetik lintasan-lintasan petunjuk.

Beruntunglah sesiapa yang mengikuti lintasan-lintasan petunjuk dari Allah itu, dan pasti akan merasai rugi jika ia membiarkan lintasan-lintasan itu pergi begitu sahaja. Sebaliknya teramatlah malang mereka yang tertipu dengan tiupan-tiupan Khannas ke dalam hati mereka, yang ditiupkan untuk menghias-hiasi kelalaian hati mereka. Tidak ada perisai terbaik untuk hati ini buat menepis serangan tentera-tentera syaitan termasuklah al-Khannas itu tadi melainkan dengan mengingati Allah. Kerana seluruh kesyaitanan dan konco-konconya tiada kekuatan ketika hadirnya zikrulLah menerangi hati.

http://ismamesir.wordpress.com/2008/03/11/tazkirah-mempelajari-hati/